Since the loss of Lydia Kevin and I have changed as people, as a couple. I have said before that the loss of Lydia has brought us together and given us a new appreciation for eachother. In the interest of keeping things that way I have done some reading on marriages. On how to keep things alive and not so sad and ordinary all the time. With the overwhelming amount of divorces today I really want to know how the couples that have been together for 50+ years do it.
One of the articles I read The day I realized I was no longer the women my husband married by: Traci Bild she talks about the person she was while dating her husband. How she was fun, funny, charming and he loved that about her. She said that after being married she turned into someone that had a mile long to do list and couldn't get around to make time for him or THEM. Reading this article made me realize 2 things.
1. Kevin and I dont actually fall into this category
2. I want to prevent this from happening NOW not when it's already happening
Spend time alone.Consider making date night a weekly norm.-Kevin and I actually do really great at this. We do not have any kids so it may be easier for us than some but, we usually go out atleast once a week and do something we both like. Usually trivia or something at a local bar. (When I'm pregnant this will have to change)
Make it fun! Make a vow: No dinner and a movie dates! When dating, odds are you and your husband did things that were fun. Try new and interesting things like playing racquetball or going bowling, take a cooking class together or hitting a theme park and riding roller coasters! Does this take work? Yes, but it's worth the effort.- Kevin and I used to take a dance class that surprisingly we both really enjoyed (he did protest at first, but he liked that he was better than I am at it) So I'm going to sign us up for classes again. It helped us work together as a team and it really helped us learn how to communicate.